I am an R&B and Neo-soul type of chick, it just rubs me the right way. So here in Cali I listen to KJLH, it is the only station here that does't deny me my ear food.
So, everyday about 3pm they have the letter of the day. I love the letter of the day! I tend to make sure I am coming or going somewhere @ 3pm, have to hear my letter of the day. Today it was the gentleman who was into the gay lifestyle up until he began to go to church that taught the word.

*we all know that there are churches that don't teach the word, let
alone that teach anything*

So as he began to get into the word, learn more and grow in Christ, he began to and eventually left the homosexual lifestyle alone. From the wording of the letter, I gather that it had been some time that he has not involved in the homosexual lifestyle!

Fast forward ....

He is now engaged to be married, have not and sexual realtions with anyone much less his future wife. He goes to the Dr for a regular checkup, you know a physical. He stressed that NOTHING was wrong, this was all routine. Only to find out he is HIV positive!
His dilemma, does he tell his future wife now or after they are married due to he won't and doesn't plan to have sex with her until they are married? He figures right now it's not an issue. The radio station had an AIDS activist on due to they knew this would bring in loads of calls and comments. They wanted the public to have the facts before making a decision, besides its was the best time to educate us! The activist states that the law requires this man to tell this woman.

* I however thought it was only a requirement before sex, not
before marriage. I am still unclear on this point*

She mentioned that most of the women who she counsels who have AIDS often say or tell them that he was the only one, it could have only been him. They tend to find out that he has a past that he has concealed (ie. jail, a dl lifestyle or even a homosexual lifestyle).
This is the moment that I had to get out of the car!

Damn short car rides!

So I ask you with what you have learned from this gentleman, what should he do? What would you have said thought, if you had heard this and then some on the radio? Would you have called?
I tell you it has me thinking ... I am even more inclined to stay celibate! This is some scary stuff! I love living, I just don't ever want anyone taking my life into their hands! I mean how can I play spades without the full deck of cards? This woman deserves this info before marriage.

Ooohhhh ... let me not forget, his reason for not being able to tell her, he doesn't want to loose her and he is sure he will!


A few links to better educate us:
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/dhap.htm
http://www.aids.org/
http://www.hivtest.org/